I saw this on the Today show this morning and my first reaction was to roll my eyes and think “I don’t need another person body-shaming me, particularly post-baby. I know I need to lose about 15 pounds, thankyouverymuch.”
Mom of 3 called a bully for posting “What’s Your Excuse?” fitness photo.
But WHY was I so upset about the image?
1) Because fit mom has three kids, is skinny and beautiful? And I only have one child, am moderately overweight and maybe considered pretty in the right makeup and lighting?
2) Because “people” seem to be extra obsessed with pregnant women, baby bumps, belly cupping and everything that goes into your mouth pre-, during, and post-baby?
3) Because I have been making excuses to not get things done lately?
Obviously, it’s all three.
And once I read fitness mom’s side of the story, my nerves calmed down quite a bit. She posted the image to be inspirational, not to shame people who are overweight. She also hinted that she has other issues going on. Don’t we all? You can post gorgeous photos to Facebook all day long, but I don’t for a minute think anyone’s life is perfect. In fact, I get suspicious when someone appears a little too perfect. (I also get suspicious of parents who claim they are never tired, never annoyed, every moment of parenting is beautiful, blah blah blah, but that’s another post altogether.)
The big trigger point for me is comparisons. Haven’t we all heard the oft-quoted Jon Acuff: “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle?”
So, a few questions for you.
1. What was your reaction to the photo?
2. How do you handle yourself around people who have more/are more successful/seem happier than you?